Though I have written blogs about friendship, this one will be something special when compared to my other blog entires. As such it made me to realize how a friend can teach you the essence of life apart from your dreams and ambition.
23rd Dec 09 will be one of the unforgettable day in my life. In this day I realized to myself how a real friend can be and how many good friends do I have got. Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. Sometimes you “need a friend” and other times it’s the other way. It’s a trust that’s returned. When I was younger and thought I was in love, a friend said it’s not love unless it’s returned. Friendship and love are not quite the same thing, although there’s a lot of love around friendship. I learned that love isn’t even something about two people, it’s a state of being for one person. You aren’t in love, you arelove. You are, whether you acknowledge it or not.
When a friend changes you can find the bond that’s connecting you at a deeper level. The surface stuff isn’t a good thing to depend on. Physical bodies change as they grow. So do emotional bodies and intellectual ones. Take a deep breath. People move, life is more like a wild dance than a ceremony. You just can’t tell what’s coming next. So if you find yourself trying to coerce someone into not changing, that is not friendship, that is coercion.
There are two elements that go to the composition of friendship, each so sovereign that I can detect no superiority in either, no reason why either should be first named. A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him/her I may think aloud. I am arrived at last in the presence of a man so real and equal, that I may drop even those undermost garments of dissimulation, courtesy, and second thought, which men/women never put off, and may deal with him with the simplicity and wholeness .
My view about friendship is entireness, a total magnanimity and trust. For me the true essence of friendship can be molded by time. In times of ups and down, a true friendship can be tested.A true friend will stand by you no matter what..A real friend is never afraid to tell you the truth knowing this will be for your own sake. A real friend will never tolerate your wrong doings. It is rare and hard to find a true friend, maybe a long the journey you will be able to meet alot of friends but only a few of them may last forever. I think the main ingredients to friendship are love, trust, understanding and openness.
Peeps, I can specify your names. But before that I need a ‘Yes’ from each one of you.